The Splash of 2021
-in the flow of life
Everyone of us might stepped on 2021 with the hope of getting out of COVID news. But again it makes us sit inside the four walls. Heart feels bit heavy whenever I look back 2020 and 2021. It just passed by like a passing cloud. Hardly these 18 months of “me-time” for all us might help us to redefine our perspective towards this life. I would like to touch upon some thoughts. Just try to incorporate in your life if it aligns with your intuition or just give me your perspective if any of my thoughts are not practical.
- FINDING PEACE WITH YOUR INNER SELF
Have you ever visited to hotel or theater or a some destination without anyone? More than half of our answers might be “no” or they might have this in their bucket list. Most of us are seeking for external validation for every thing we do. We need someone around us to show off we are not lonely. Most people will surround themselves with lots of people and think that would bring them a utmost happiness. Of course it would. But how long? It was hard coded in our mind that when I make out this trip with them or when I hang out with them for a movie, I’ll be happy. But how long do you think? May be for a day or two. Instead of fitting yourself in the social view of happiness, spend some time to read you, to understand you, analyze what’s your way of finding happiness with yourself and then identify your happiness with others. Again it is you who is going deal with your inner self.
Happiness is an inside matter and its is in our control. Don’t even give a thought on what’s not in our control. Problems will come automatically. People will make us feel unworthy sometimes. Some situations will go against our expectations. We cannot do anything on this. The greatest asset we have in our hands is how we can react to it. Our Human creature is the most sophisticated machine in the universe and if we don’t know how to operate it sensibly, It will going to a super mess. So have control over anything and find yourself inside the cave of happiness.
2. CHOOSING THE RIGHT PARTNER
How to choose a right partner? For some they may say yes to the one whom their parents show and it works for some. For some they found their soulmate and lead a happy life. For some they are still struggling and overthinking how to choose a right partner. Just think how much time you spent to select your shirt or any of your favorite accessory before buying. Then how can you make yourself to settle for someone for some mere reasons. Date the one whom you feel it may works. Spend some time and understand their past, their upbringing, their mental traumas, their surroundings and situations, how they are handling it, what they need exactly. Communication is the key of every relationship. Try to read about your Partner’s Likes, Dislikes, Goals, Bucket list, Views about some random things. Be a good listener. Indulge yourself when they are speaking and pamper them with your thoughts on it. It may seems that the relationship is going like more or less subjective. But these things are the root of every relationship. No one could predict how the relationship turns out to be, but if you able to think it in your partner’s shoes and handle the relationship, you are in a right place.
When it comes to a relationship, make sure both of you are in a same vibe and perspective. Make sure whatever you pour in your relationship, it reciprocates with the same or more than that. Don’t let it be one-sided. You are the one who reap the outcome of it. Don’t let your loneliness settle for less. Do have some standards even when it comes to a relationship. Life is not a fairy tale or a movie. Don’t pressure yourself to find a right partner. Don’t let your mind to wander about that one person because of looks or anything. Vibe matters than anything and rest comes in line.
3. ART OF DETACHING YOURSELF
What is the one thing you cannot live without? Who is that someone you feared of losing in your life? Everyone has different answers, For some it is some materials, for some it is their closed ones in a family or friends, for some it is their pets. Have you ever think of how your life is going to be after their depart ? It all depends on the depth of attachment we have with them. Whatever the relationship it could be, it may be your mom, dad, spouse, or your children, don’t drag them into your world. You may be the reason for their growth but you should not define a formula for their life. Everyone is unique and so you.
As a human, we do have feelings which we cannot control always. Sometimes it flows out of hands though we are trying to control it. The most crucial age of our life where someone wants to learn about the “Art of Detachment” is between 16 –25. Have a eye on your thoughts, how you are spending your time, whom you are attaching to. Its okay to have some control on it . If you let your mind in its way, some may handle it wisely. But for some, it will be a tragic. The level of attachment matters with anything or anyone. If something is distracting you from your work or making yourself overthink, then its time to step back to some level and maintain it. Make yourself attached to your Desires, Dreams, Goals and Vision and detach yourself in certain level from the things or people.
4. TAKE YOURSELF LIGHTLY
There are trillions of galaxies and billions of stars around us and we are just a spec of dust in this atmosphere. Just imagine how tiny we are. Nothing is going to pause if we die. May be our presence could create some impact on some our closed ones life or we may did something purposeful to our society. We are temporary visitor in this place and we are striving towards something which may or may not happen by burying the present. Of course we need some basic thing for our survival , don’t let the society to fix the limit for it. I came across lots of people whom they have enough money for their coming two generations, still they are working round the clock to make more money out of desire. Basic wealth, broad-minded thoughts and instincts are the greatest asset that one pass on to their generations.
Start designing your life in the way what you want to be, it might not be possible because of your family or social pressure, but once you start breaking it, then you start living your life other than just surviving. Sometimes it may end up in a way what you don’t want to be, but it would be a great learning if you start implementing. Not everything will works in the way what you want to be. Take some baby steps, if it works, hold it on and climb further. If it fails, step back and figure out other possible way. No one will know what is your cup of coffee, so figure it out by yourself. Follow the habit of being kind and compassionate in your journey. Avoid hurting people intentionally or unintentionally, you may not even know how they placed you in their heart. Treat yourself well and expect others the same. Don’t take yourself so seriously and avoid wasting all your time and energy about the things which don’t matters the most. If you have house to live, work to survive, family to pamper, then you have almost everything. If you have something extra than this, then its your blessing. If something happens out of your control, don’t label it as a stress, enjoy the challenges in your path. Don’t expect anything from anyone. If it comes, take it. If it goes, accept it. Make sure you are living every second of your life irrespective of all odds. Be the architect of your life, and make a best out of it.